see, what we're going to do is take things at face value based on what we're observing/experiencing, aight?
I'm not here with the long talk this week because it's a short week and again, time management is not on my side. I will say though that since I've started time blocking to a certain degree, things are working out for the kid. To make things even more efficient for me in the gym/health-wise, I signed up with a Toronto-based trainer who has formulated an online workout plan so that I’m not in the gym for 2 hours. Who the hell has time to be in the gym for TWO HOURS? I can’t anymore lol.
I hope that y’all had a beautiful Easter long weekend, if you celebrate. If you don’t, I hope that the weekend was good to you anyways. I ended up on a 16-hour friend date on Saturday that started at 8:30am and went until LATE AT NIGHT. I think I am still recovering. We did all of the things that I love to do- eat, drink, shop and wander around aimlessly. I’m still finding my bearings in NYC/NJ as far as solid women friendships are concerned. Don’t get me wrong, I have established some beautiful connections here and I’m grateful, but what I’ve been craving and grieving (I think), are friendships like I have at home where we just link up and go where the wind takes us. That real sisterhood shit, no plans- just vibes. This weekend was a great reminder of what I love about my friendships with women. Black women. The jokes, the love, the ‘we just get it,’ the singing in the car, the ‘chileeeeeeee’s',’ all of the things that just feel goodT. This weekend was also a reminder to me that not every damn conversation with people has to be a trauma dump. That shit is so draining. I know, I know, we are all moving through the things but dawg..if every time we talk or catch up, it’s recap of all the shit you’ve been going through, leave me out of it. It’s so nice to connect with people and just FCKING ENJOY each others company and forget about the world. I’m all for a good friend-therapy session but it just can’t be the entirety of our friendship. It can’t be every voice note, every call, every hangout, every text. This happens often for me and I need to evaluate how to set better boundaries for myself. I was going to say other people, but our boundaries are OURS and to be respected by US through gauging who can stay and who can go, based on how we need to be treated. Anyways, some of my relationships here are really starting to form and i’m blessed to experience and live in it.
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